When I was growing up it seemed like there were an awful lot of movies where a woman was on a quest to change a man. It gave the impression that all men needed fixing in some way. As parents do sometimes, it was my mother who set the record straight. People don’t really change, not the way they’re told to. People grow, but that’s not the same thing. You simply cannot will someone’s personality or pet peeve or anything else to change. They can learn to let things go on their own, but you cannot influence what those things are. They are a totally autonomous person, whether you want them to be or not. Accept or move on.
It was this particular thing that I thought was so great in this song. Smack in the middle of the song, the one troll says “We’re not saying you can change him because people don’t really change.” Then it goes back into fixin’ each other up with love.
Can we really fix each other up?
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