As is recommended in the video, it can be a good idea to call a truce on the issues and sit down for lunch or a cup of coffee. We spend so much time demonizing each other that we forget that we can work together too. The speaker in the video says lunch, but I like coffee better. I feel like I can talk to people more at coffee than lunch, but maybe it’s because I focus too much on my food at lunch…..
Yes, there are lots of feminists and MRA’s that live to mud-sling, but there are many of us who want to actually work for change. Hopefully, there are more of us who want actual change than those who do all the shouting and attention grabbing. We get caught up and defensive because of the mud-slingers and forget that we might be on the same side. The real enemy is complacency, isn’t it? Aren’t we really trying to fight a system that doesn’t allow people to be themselves and causes our genitalia to determine our worth and the value we are to society? Aren’t we really all just opposing a system that says that you have to do everything that other people with your same genitalia have done?
How about we sit down, have a cup of coffee and get to know each other? How about we have a conversation that doesn’t involve who shot first or last or most? How about we get together and agree that we want a relatively similar end, even if we don’t want to take the same path to get there? I’d rather have allies and champions who help me get the complacent part of the world to realize that we are all biased in some way and there’s more to people than their sex or gender. I’d rather be an ally and champion of others as well.
Do we have to always be fighting each other? I think peace and cooperation among groups that want gender equality could be a powerful step on a more progressive road than any of us are on individually.
So how about that cup of coffee?
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