- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
- I wish I had let myself be happier
No, it’s not written as a feminist book but it is a good message to women everywhere. And to men too for that matter. Both genders have issues with these things with or without gender roles and patriarchy and everything else that either side has holding them back. The author clarifies that while everyone may have done certain things differently in their lives, not all had true regrets. She writes about the first time each of these regrets were told to her and the impression that person made on her. The important thing is to not fall into these pits, to not live a life that is too consumed by anything that is not a part of your true self.
While these regrets are so all-encompassing that they can be seen as vague initially, they do pertain to specific things in life. Each of the people that are mentioned did a lot of good in their lives, but they were plagued by an area of life that they didn’t bring into the balance. The author takes you on the journey of her life which includes discovering the job with the dying, learning from their regrets and their happiness, and then a little beyond as she finds her path to live the life they all seemed to be guiding her to. I think we can all learn to live that life that has balance, happiness and is true to ourselves without feeling bogged down by the world and expectations. It’s a good reminder to at least always be trying to do just that.
I recommend taking a look at this, it was enlightening.